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Well (she says, updating her site for the first time in several, several years), looks like that idea that turned into a theory that turned into an obsession that turned into a doctorate has now finally turned into a book – a real one, with a cover image and an index and everything.

Now that my book is now in its final form, I have so many people to acknowledge. It was in 2005 that I first volunteered at IKWRO, already eager to understand at least something about how violence against women might be different within different family structures. So it is thanks to Diana Nammi, Kharman Adhim, Nazira Mehmari, Nezahat Cihan and many of the other women there that this book got its first wind.

The next stage was taking it through the PhD process with the generous support and wisdom from Dr Amanda Robinson and Professor Debbie Epstein.

Finally, it was accepted for publication at Rutgers University Press with the support of Lalaie Ameeriar and Peter Berta, and turned into an actual book through the work of Jasper Chang, Sherry Gerstein, and many other people in the publishing industry whose names I don’t know.

It’s a particularly fine-looking book due to Ronak Mohammed kindly allowing me to use her powerful artwork on the front cover. I should also thank my wonderful friend Deeyah Khan for writing a lovely foreword.

If you can’t read the tiny print in the image, the 30% off code is 02AAAA17 , and a link to the book on Rutgers site is available here.

Not a matter of personal preference

People have recently been tweeting at me for some clarification around the motivations of perpetrators of HBV. It’s something that is, emotionally, very hard to grasp: many parents and siblings can’t imagine deliberately inflicting violence upon a sister, daughter or niece because of a sense of shame.

We have to recognise that when we think that we’d show support and solidarity to a ‘shamed’ family member, we are saying this from a very different starting point: we are speaking as members of individualistic, loose-knit societies. Aref Abu-Rabia (2011, p. 38), says that the perpetration of an ‘honour’ killing should be considered ‘an organized social act by the family, not a matter of personal preference.’ Collectivist, tight-knit societies place much heaver burdens upon their members and have harsher responses to deviance. A loose-knit society might find a little deviance acceptable, even adding a pleasing touch of eccentricity and character, and there is more tolerance for a diversity of opinions. However, tight societies will tend to punish comparatively minor transgressions. The ‘tightest’ societies are often the most homogenous, those which have recent histories of agrarian production, and those which have experienced societal trauma like war and occupation. Read more

Models of HBV risk assessment: DASH v PATRIARCH

I recently wrote an article based on my case-file research into the distinctions between IPV and HBV which teased out some of the implications for risk assessment. (It should be published in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence sometime in 2014). This blog-post is building from that to talk about the current risk assessments being used around HBV — to give them a quick evaluation to see how well they work against the kind of experiences that came up in the case-file study, and just the rest of the general stuff I know. Read more

Agnation, collectivity and ‘honour’

Now I’ve worked out how to use Garage Band, I can make my presentations available as podcasts as well as slidecasts. So take your pick!


This is the follow up to my earlier post about forms of violence affecting Middle Eastern women in the UK.

Chain Migration

‘Honour’ in transition

There is a gendered pattern of chain migration, especially predominant within communities where women have less liberties to travel alone, where a man arrives as an immigrant and later receives a bride from his country of origin. Many of the women I have researched for my earlier discussion of differences between HBV and IPV fit into this category: they are first generation immigrants, dependent upon their husbands financially and legally. Read more